Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with
each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have
forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire
them to ʺwant what we wantʺ and ʺfeel the way we feel.ʺ
We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain
ways‐the ways we react and behave when we love someone. This attitude sets us up to be
disappointed again and in and prevents us from taking the necessary time to communicate

lovingly about our differences.